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Erica Bonham (@avoscounseling) is a licensed professional counselor, certified EMDR clinician and trainer, and the owner of AVOS Counseling and AVOS Coaching in Colorado. Her coaching focuses on embodiment, empowerment and nervous system regulation, with an emphasis on moving emotion through the body rather than managing it away. She has spent 16 years in this work and is the author of Always Enough, Never Done.

We get into: why a lot of regulation advice ends up as compression and management, congruence between what your body communicates and what your words say, an exercise from a former dominatrix and Taoist nun about going to the extremes in front of a mirror, why rage is often easier to reach than neediness, helping as a habit versus helping as a choice, why the brain keeps the score and the body is the scorecard, why you shouldn’t send the text if you can hear your thumbs tapping, urgency as a collective trauma response, labour as a metaphor for growing our capacity, starting with neutrality when self-love feels too far away, and weird trickster energy as a way to break up the monotony.

Find Erica:

AVOS Counseling: https://www.avoscounseling.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/avoscounseling
Free Regulation Toolkit: https://www.avoscounseling.com/freebie

Books Mentioned:

Always Enough, Never Done — Erica Bonham
Anchored — Deb Dana
The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk

People & Concepts Mentioned:

Kasia Urbaniak — power dynamics teacher, source of the “go to the extremes” exercise
Rachael Jayne Groover — Erica’s coach, source of the home base practice
Anne Lamott — “help is the sunny side of control”
Stephen Porges — polyvagal theory
Pema Chödrön — every outbreath as a small death
EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing)
EFT tapping and the butterfly hug
The Enneagram
The vagus nerve
Bilateral stimulation — running, drumming, dancing, cross-body movement
Progressive muscle relaxation
Lion’s breath

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